Relationship Anxiety Therapy · Online throughout Illinois
When loving someone comes with a lot of worry.
Relationship anxiety can mean constantly wondering whether a partner is losing interest, reading into every text, or doubting a relationship that's otherwise going well. It can show up while dating, in a long-term partnership, or before a big commitment. Therapy helps you understand where these patterns come from and respond to them with more steadiness.
Common experiences
You might recognize some of these.
- Feeling anxious when someone takes a while to text back
- Needing frequent reassurance from a partner
- Fear of abandonment or of being 'too much'
- Doubting a relationship even when it's healthy
- Pulling away when things get close
- Dating anxiety and overanalyzing early interactions
Attachment and patterns
We often explore attachment patterns, family history and past relationships alongside present-day anxiety. Approaches such as CBT, ACT and Internal Family Systems (IFS) can help you notice anxious thoughts, understand the parts of you that are trying to protect you, and practice communicating needs directly.
On your own or together
Many people work on relationship anxiety in individual therapy, whether single, dating or partnered. Couples who want to work on these patterns together can explore couples counseling. When doubt and checking feel compulsive, an OCD-informed approach may help.
Who you'd work with
- Mary Claire Schibelka, LCPC
Founder & Lead Counselor · Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC), Illinois
Availability: Mon–Thu 10 AM–5 PM · Fri 10 AM–12 PM (Central)
- Sarah Burke, LCPC
Counselor · Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC), Illinois
Availability: Mon–Thu 5–8 PM · Sat 8–11 AM (Central)
Practical details
- Telehealth in Illinois
- Secure video sessions for clients physically located in Illinois. Based in Chicago.
- Licensure
- Both counselors are Licensed Clinical Professional Counselors (LCPC) in Illinois.
- Insurance
- Blue Cross Blue Shield PPO (Illinois), Aetna, UnitedHealthcare / Optum, Cigna, Medicare, Curative. Participation varies by therapist and plan. Insurance & fees
- Requesting an appointment
- Start with a free 15-minute consultation, or email hello@cloudninecounseling.co or call 312-612-9644. Please don't share clinical details by email.
Common questions
Do I need to be in a relationship to work on relationship anxiety?
No. Many clients work on dating anxiety or patterns from past relationships while single.
Is relationship anxiety the same as relationship OCD?
Not always. Some relationship anxiety is linked to attachment patterns or past experiences, while relationship-focused OCD involves obsessive doubt and compulsive checking. Your therapist can help you sort out what fits.
Cloud Nine Counseling is not an emergency service. If you are in crisis, call or text 988, or call 911 for immediate danger.